Sunday, December 9, 2012

Ten Advices for 2013

I decided to go for something different for once on my blog.
The year comes to an end and it was a year full of ups and downs.
Extremely happy moments, so overwhelming and surreal that I could barely handle them and very sad moments which made me doubt myself and my way many times. 
No one needs to be unhappy or uncertain about their live or their choices. I want you to read those ten advices in order to focus on YOU and only YOU in 2013. 
Make this year yours. Read it, feel it in and leave feedback. Much love Julia


1. Focus on the activities and people that make you happy.

This isn’t high school anymore, where we have to please people just to be considered cool and fit in. 

This is the real world and in the real world all you have to worry about is yourself and not what others think about you. Do what you feel will help you attain the life you wish to have, be around the people you truly enjoy hanging out with and engage in what makes you feel most fulfilled.


2. Trust your instincts on new opportunities.

Opportunities are never given, they are taken. Stop waiting for handouts in life and go out there and get what you want. Trust your instincts because if it doesn’t feel right inside it wont feel right for you as time goes by. Trust that little voice in your head and do what you feel is most beneficial for your well being and satisfaction.


3. Build the courage to face your fears.

If you haven’t already noticed, the real world is filled with a lot of intimidating phases you must participate in to grow up. Don’t ever hesitate to give yourself a chance to be everything you are capable of being. What brings out the best version of yourself is the act of standing up to what scares you most.

The only person telling you to be afraid of these things is you. Engage in discomforting activities that you know will make you a stronger, more courageous person afterwards because they will never fail to do so.


4. Seek less approval from others.

You are going to learn a cold hard lesson that many people that you think care about you might actually be haters and users. Stop seeking approval from people and stop worrying about what other people think about you. Be proud of who you are and don’t let the opinions of the those who wish they had your courage bring you down. Remember, a lion does not worry himself over the opinions of the sheep.


5. Ignore society’s comparisons.

It will never help you to compare yourself to other people and believe that you will never amount to their success. Stop renting an identity, be you and live your life without comparing it to someone else’s. You are far more nuanced than anyone else’s narrative you try to fit yourself into, and more complex than society’s story of what ‘should’ be happening in your life.


6. Let the wrong people go.

You are going to come across many different types of people in life, so you don’t have to be everyone’s friend. You will come to realize who your true friends are, supporting you through thick and thin. You will also, however, encounter a fair amount of poisonous individuals that will try to hold you back from getting what you want for their own benefit.

Cut them off and don’t let them intrude and ruin your life. You can’t make everyone happy in this world, so don’t bother trying. Don’t be so quick to lend out your trust.


7. Appreciate your true friends, and return the favor.

You true friends are the ones that you can call during any time of the day and will be there to help you no matter what. Return the favor of being a good friend and don’t ever forget where you came from. Friendship is what will keep you humble throughout your journey, and as long as you continue to show appreciation for the love you are given, it will only come back in larger doses.


8. Stay away from a routine based life.

Don’t turn into a pedestrian by settling for the first thing that life gives you. Security and stability may seem less harmful at first but they prevent you from experiencing the greatest adventures and rewards this world could possibly offer. You will be presented with a lifestyle that appears comfortable, doing the same things each day with little or no excitement or mental growth involved.

This is why you need to remember that to take advantage of the wondrous opportunities life has in store for you, you must get comfortable with the uncomfortable and choose the road that is most interesting, regardless of how complicated or unnerving it may be.


9. Choose happiness.

Happiness is a choice that varies in substance for many people, so you need to create your own kind of happiness that you find most fulfilling or stimulating. There is nothing you need in order to be happy other than the choice to do so. Let go of the worries you have for what may or may not come your way. Focus instead on the good things that you can give, create, inspire and choose to experience, right here, right now.


10. Always keep in mind that life is somewhat unpredictable.

Some of the great moments in your life won’t necessarily be the things you do, they’ll be things that happen to you. That doesn’t mean you can’t take action to affect the outcome..You have to take action, and you will. But don’t forget that on any day, you can step out the front door and your whole life can change in an instant – for better or worse.

To an extent, the universe has a plan that’s always in motion. A butterfly flaps its wings and it starts to rain – it’s a scary thought, but it’s part of life’s cycle. All these little parts of the machine, constantly working – sometimes forcing you to struggle, and sometimes making sure you end up exactly in the right place at the right time.



GirlieBlogger@Beauty Fashion Blog Seattle said...

What a lovely post and great advice. I think cutting out the wrong people in life is very important to healthy living. It's wonderful to read something different from you.

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Sara said...

Sounds perfect!!!



This gave me a lot to think about I'm going to keep this post avaliable so I can read this everyday. This was deep. I'm happy to be one of your followers.

*andie* said...

richtig toller post..und so wahr! weiter so:)

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